"When something looks "off" in an interface, it probably looks fake, like it wouldn't exist in the real world."

Part Two: http://ratafia.info/post/90532973/transcript-of-howto-149-surprising-ways-to

You just need patience, and you need to contact the people you want to have contact with in contexts you feel are natural, in ways you feel add value to both of your lives. All you need to do is have patience and put away any attitude that says you’re entitled to anything.