#205: The case of the nosy roommate. « CaptainAwkward.com
10 weeks ago by hanacy
"STRATEGICALLY PLACED SILENCE IS YOUR FRIEND. Say the difficult thing/ask the question, and then wait expectantly. When an awkward pause happens, don’t automatically jump in to fill it and smooth everything over. Sometimes you need things to be temporarily unsmooth so that real, true things can happen. Like learning, or creative leaps, or dawning self-awareness, or the kind of conflict that actually solves the deeper issues. Let the other person step into the awkward pause and come up with the words themselves.
In other words, when Reba tells you she wasn’t eavesdropping and didn’t mean to, wait. Gather your thoughts, and let it get wicked uncomfortable. When it’s time, jump back in."
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In other words, when Reba tells you she wasn’t eavesdropping and didn’t mean to, wait. Gather your thoughts, and let it get wicked uncomfortable. When it’s time, jump back in."
10 weeks ago by hanacy
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