"...things are so bad, so minimally imaginative for women’s prospects when it comes to thinking about the relation of the sexual theater to capturing a life, that people tend to do the thing they heard about doing just to get through the situation, and if it means poisoning themselves and wearing out their bodies, or being over- or understimulated, even, they’ll do it. I do it. I make better decisions but not different kinds of decision."... "A singular world is there, it’s your partner, fixing in images the sense of continuity you carry around. Which is why loss is actually loss whatever else it is—even if it’s also a relief, a victory, an occasion for sentimental self-encountering, or a thud, almost nothing, as it is also the loss of a revitalization of sense that was bound to the image, which was itself just a stand-in for relation as such."

"Couples preserved a sense of mutuality by accounting for the gender imbalance as something beyond men’s choice or control, or in terms of women’s excess emotional needs, thus entrenching gender differences in the performance and consequences of emotional work."

"Increased equality hides the fact that many of the issues the women’s movement raised have not been resolved, especially with regard to re-production. It hides the fact that we are not engaged collectively in a socially transformative project as women, and that, with the advance of neo-liberalism, there has been a re-masculinization of society. The truculent, masculinist language of “We are the Crisis,” the opening article of “After the Fall,” is an egregious example of it. I fully understand why many women feel threatened rather than empowered by it."

"Where does terror lie for the already marginal? With the radical extremists, as our governments and newspapers would have us believe, or with those responsible for maintaining control and order on our city streets? I curated an architectural installation entitled Urban Threads in September 2004 with a group of homeless women in Melbourne for whom terror comes in the form of uniforms of office, men in suits, and unachievable social expectations. What most citizens would regard as a quick, safe protected shortcut through the city is for them a Path of Most Resistance. And when many regard a steel security door as a requirement for domestic safety, these women craft dwelling spaces from cardboard in other people's doorways, hoping that yet another security guard won't move them on tonight. For some of our citizens, the city has the ambivalent status of a place of surveillance, social control and ostracism yet also a home where they can find hidden places of refuge."