RT @QualRecAust: Children Make You Happier, If Someone Else Does Most of the Work #parenthood #happiness

To create the conditions for global compassion, all we have to do is to reframe compassion as something that is fun.

If you pay people to complete puzzles instead of paying them for being smart, they lose interest in the game. If you pay children to draw, fun becomes work. Payment on top of compliments and other praise and feeling good about personal achievement are powerful motivators, but only if they are unexpected

JOY

JOY JOY JOY JOY JOY

IN CASE OF SAD, DO NOT BREAK GLASS/MONITOR, INSTEAD CLICK ON SONG AND WATCH OVER AND OVER

A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?

In other words, having a kid is a lot like having a boat: It's way more fun if you get to name it after yourself, but have staff on hand to do most of the hard work of keeping it up. 

EP Seligman's theory called learned helplessness. The theory states that a great deal of depression grows out of a feeling of helplessness: the feeling that you cannot control your environment.

So that's what days were like. A bunch of tiny frustrations, and a bunch of tiny successes. But they added up. Even something which seems like a tiny, inconsequential frustration affects your mood. Your emotions don't seem to care about the magnitude of the event, only the quality.

One day in Hell the Devil approached a man who loved the drinking parties there. The Devil told the man that as long as he was willing to quit drinking he could immediately go to Heaven, where he would forever have a better time. The man replied that although Hell wasn’t so bad, and the parties were great, he preferred Heaven, and was willing to go there right now. The Devil told him that if he wanted he could have a great send-off party now, and go to Heaven tomorrow. The man thought it seemed a good idea to have the best of both worlds, so he accepted the deal. The next day the man was reminiscing about how great the send-off party was when the Devil approached him and said he could have another terrific party right then, and go to Heaven the next day. Of course the man accepted. Each day the Devil made the same offer, and each day the man accepted the party, replying, “I’ll quit drinking tomorrow.”